" it is natural for females to have feelings of charity— you are now plac’d in a situation where you can act according to those sympathies which God has planted in your bosoms. If you live up to these principles how great and glorious!— if you live up to your privileges, the angels cannot be restrain’d from being your associates— females, if they are pure and innocent can come into the presence of God; for what is more pleasing toGod than innocence; you must be innocent or you cannot come up before God. If we would come before God let us be pure ourselves. The devil has great power— he will so transform things as to make one gape at those who are doing the will of God— You need not be tearing men for their deeds, but let the weight of innocence be felt; which is moremighty than a millstone hung about the neck. Not war, not jangle, not contradiction, but meekness, love, purity, these are the things that should magnify us.— ... If you will be pure, nothing can hinder.
"...Let this Society teach how to act towards husbands to treat them with mildness and affection. When a man is borne down with trouble— when he is perplex’d, if he can meet a smile, an argument— if he can meet with mildness, it will calm down his soul and soothe his feelings. When the mind is going to despair, it needs a solace."
"...When you go home never give a cross word, but let kindness, charity and love, crown your works henceforward. Don’t envy sinners— have mercy on them. God will destroy them.— Let your labors be confin’d mostly to those around you in your own circle; as far as knowledge is concerned, it may extend to all the world, but your administrations, should be confin’d to the circle of your immediate acquaintance, and more especially to the members of the Society." http://beta.josephsmithpapers.org/paperSummary/nauvoo-relief-society-minute-book#37
"One request to the Prest. and Society, that you search yourselves— the tongue is an unruly member— hold your tongues about things of no moment,— a little tale will set the world on fire. At this time the truth on the guilty should not be told openly— Strange as this may seem, yet this is policy. "
"To the iniquitous show yourselves merciful. I am advis’d by some of the heads of the church to tell the Relief Society to be virtuous— but to save the church from desolation and the sword beware, be still, be prudent. Repent, reform but do it in a way to not destroy all around you. I do not want to cloak iniquity— all things contrary to the will [p. 52] of God, should be cast from us, but dont do more hurt than good with your tongues— be pure in heart— Jesus designs to save the people out of their sins. Said Jesus ye shall do the work which ye see me do. These are the grand key words for the Society to act upon.
If I were not in your midst to aid and council you, the devil would overcome you. I want the innocent to go free— rather spare ten iniquitous among you than than condemn one innocent one. “Fret not thyself because of evil doers.” God will see to it." http://beta.josephsmithpapers.org/paperSummary/nauvoo-relief-society-minute-book#49
"Supposing that Jesus Christ and angels should object to us on frivolous things, what would become of us? We must be merciful and overlook small things." http://beta.josephsmithpapers.org/paperSummary/nauvoo-relief-society-minute-book#58
"Nothing is so much calculated to lead people to forsake sin as to take them by the hand and watch over them with tenderness. When persons manifest the least kindness and love to me, O what pow’r it has over my mind, while the opposite course has a tendency to harrow up all the harsh feelings and depress the human mind." http://beta.josephsmithpapers.org/paperSummary/nauvoo-relief-society-minute-book#59
" if you would have God have mercyon you, have mercy on one another." http://beta.josephsmithpapers.org/paperSummary/nauvoo-relief-society-minute-book#59
"We must walk uprightly all day long— How glorious are the principles of righteousness! We are full of selfishness— the devil flatters us that we are very righteous, while we are feeding on the faults of others— We can only live by worshipping our God— all must do it for themselves— none can do it for another. How mild the Savior dealt with Peter, saying “when thou art converted, strengthen thy brethren”— at an other time he said to him “lovest thou me? ‘Feed my sheep.”— If the sisters love the Lord let them feed the sheep and not destroy them. "
"The way to keep all the saints together and keep the work rolling, is to wait with all long suff’ring till God shall bring such characters to justice. There should be no license for sin, but mercy should go hand in hand with reproof.